Does Not Embracing My Natural Hair Make Me Less 'Black'?

Because I attend an HBCU (Historically Black College/University), there is always someone promoting black power or persuading you to embrace your African-American roots. I recently have been in a situation where someone has accused me of being less black because I wear my hair relaxed. I thought I would share my thoughts about this topic. I have some friends that went away to other HBCU's and became more culturally aware of their heritage and decided to embrace it fully. 

I was riding in the car with my friend and their other friend who im not as close to. She started discussing her hair texture while claiming her hair is healthier than mine because I get relaxers. I just wanna point out that everyone has some sort of damage to their hair. There are some people who have healthy relaxed hair and damaged natural hair. It's all about how you maintain and keep up with it. I have definitely thought about going natural but I personally continue to wear my hair relaxed because it is easier to manage. My hair is very thick and long and I feel that this way is the best for me now. 

I honestly believe just because I personally or other people don't fully show their African heritage, doesn't mean we're oblivious to it. I had the privilege in my life to experience both white and black parts of New York, where I'm from. I believe I've had the chance to know both cultures to where I have a mix of both and know how to act accordingly in any given situation. 

My main point in writing about this topic was to show that I can be an African American woman and not have to wear my hair natural for people to tell me I'm not known to my culture. It's a lifestyle choice that people are willing to take. Going natural does not make me more black and having relaxers does not make me more white. 

I would love to hear other opinions on this topic. Make your voice heard by commenting below!